Will I See My Ex During a MIAM?
No.
A MIAM is an individual appointment.
You attend on your own, allowing you to speak openly and confidentially.
If mediation proceeds, the other person will also have their own separate MIAM before any joint sessions are arranged.
Do I Have to Agree to Mediation?
No.
One of the biggest misconceptions is that attending a MIAM means you must go ahead with mediation.
That’s simply not true.
The purpose of the meeting is to help you understand your options.
If mediation is suitable and everyone agrees to participate, sessions can then be arranged.
If mediation isn’t appropriate, your mediator will explain what happens next.
How Long Does a MIAM Take?
Most MIAM appointments last around 45 to 60 minutes, depending on the complexity of your circumstances and the questions you wish to discuss.
What Should I Bring?
You don’t usually need extensive paperwork.
However, it can help to bring:
- Notes about your situation
- Any court paperwork (if applicable)
- Financial information is used to discuss money matters.
- A list of questions you’d like answered.
Most importantly, come prepared to talk openly about your circumstances.
What Happens After My MIAM?
After your appointment, there are several possible outcomes.
Mediation Goes Ahead
If both people are willing and mediation is suitable, joint mediation sessions can begin.
Your Ex Declines Mediation
If the other person chooses not to engage, your mediator will explain the next steps and, where appropriate, complete the required court documentation.
Mediation Isn’t Suitable
If mediation isn’t appropriate due to your circumstances, your mediator will discuss alternative options for resolving your dispute.
Why Choose EH Mediation?
We understand that you may find attending your first MIAM at EH Mediation daunting.
Our experienced mediators provide:
- Confidential one-to-one appointments
- Online and in-person meetings
- Clear, impartial advice
- Supportive guidance
- Flexible appointments
- Support for kids and finances
Details of Legal Aid, if at all applicable, and the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme.
We do not want to just meet a legal requirement — we want you to feel informed, supported and confident about what to do next.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is a MIAM compulsory?
When making many types of applications to the family courts, for example in relation to children or finances, you are generally required to attend a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) unless an exemption applies.
Will I have to meet my ex?
No.
Your MIAM is a private appointment between you and your mediator.
Can I attend my MIAM online?
Yes.
EH Mediation offers online MIAM appointments, allowing you to attend from the comfort of your own home.
What if my ex refuses mediation?
Your own MIAM can still take place.
If the other person decides not to participate, your mediator will explain your options and, where appropriate, complete the relevant court documentation.
Is everything I say confidential?
Yes.
MIAM discussions are confidential, subject to the usual legal exceptions relating to safeguarding or disclosure obligations.
Do I need a solicitor before attending?
No.
Many people attend a MIAM before speaking to a solicitor.
The meeting helps you understand all available options before deciding what to do next.
Will the mediator tell me what to do?
No.
A family mediator is impartial.
They won’t choose between you and your partner. They help you understand your options and see if mediation could work for you.
How to book a MIAM with EH Mediation
Booking is simple.
Give EH Mediation a call or visit our website, and one of our friendly staff members will help to schedule an appointment for a time that works best for you.